There is such a thing as trying too hard......

I think one can want a thing so bad, or more to the point, one can be so fearful of losing a thing that the forcing of keeping the thing, can do just the opposite. instead of a natural flow, the one is rigid and pained in the effort. Too much focus on loss or failure can make that which we fear manifest. Like riding a motorcycle, don't fixate on what you want to avoid lest you hit the very thing. Instead, lock onto where you want to go....knowing exactly what one wants is paramount.